Charm, from change

I haven’t had skin care for a long time. At first, my daughter was ill, and I wanted to accompany her; Later, the beautician who did skin care rented the store again and needed to decorate it. This morning, she called and said she had time. I said to my daughter, go with my mother, take your books and do homework there. My daughter lifted a small paper bag in Yang’s hand. She had already prepared it and was just waiting for me to leave. On the way, my daughter said to me, “Mom, I think you are not as beautiful as before. How beautiful you were when you were young. I said how did you know? I was not beautiful when I was young. My daughter said to me quickly, “No, Mom, you were very beautiful at that time. I have seen photos of you when you were young. An old dress looks good on you. However, Mom, I think your appearance has changed now, which is not the same as before. I understand what my daughter means. She means that I have become ugly now. She hoped to have a beautiful mother around her, although I knew that it was not malicious for her daughter to say these words. I told her that what you saw must be the photo of me when I was in school. At that time, my mother was young without any pressure of life, and naturally she was much more beautiful than now. I think of everyone who was familiar with me before and didn’t see me for a long time and then suddenly met me: how did you become like this now? You are much thinner! This is what they must ask. It includes the teachers who once taught me, my classmates, and relatives I haven’t met for several years. One interesting time was when I was a correspondence undergraduate, I sat with a boy who once worked as a classmate, and I recognized him at a glance. However, he didn’t recognize me. It was not until another classmate sitting beside us introduced him that he widened his eyes in surprise and said: Are you Han Shuang? You converted! I have lost weight for a whole circle! Also very haggard and old. I felt unspeakable embarrassment at that time, yeah! Most of the students I have met are heavier than before, and their mental state is very good. Only me, a face of depression, depression. At that time, I lived in unhappiness every day. I was hit by ruthless injuries. The trifles of life have made me feel that living is unnecessary. I live in regret every day, in the pain of resentment and nowhere to vent, but for the sake of children, I still have to live on. I was hardly willing to look in the mirror again, because every time I looked in the mirror, my heart would feel painful once, and people would feel inferior. The self in the mirror was so ugly, old, listless, sallow face, a face of illness and helplessness. To borrow a sentence that my friend said to me later: at that time, I was like a village woman. How could I be like a person who had been educated and had a good career? At that time, I felt that I was the worst and ugliest woman in the world because of the unhappiness and unhappiness of life. Later, I read an article whose title was “the root cause of making women ugly”. The above sentence deeply touched me: the most harmful thing to a woman, it’s just resentment and guilt. The former makes us aim at others with vicious energy; The latter is to turn around the muzzle and aim this negative emotion at ourselves. You can be angry and then take actions; You can regret and then improve yourself. But please give up resentment and guilt, which not only make women ugly, but also bring diseases. The author also gave an example, saying that she was a handsome girl she hadn’t seen for many years. When she met each other again, she was shocked. At that time, I was speechless and didn’t know what to say. In the author’s eyes at that time, that beautiful girl with delicate temperament was beyond recognition and had no temperament at all. It turned out that her girlfriend had been living and suffering from resentment and regret because of her unhappy marriage and no way to divorce. When she looked in the mirror later, she found herself becoming more and more sharp, more and more vicious and more ugly. Because the misfortune of life leads to psychological unhealthy, It not only changes my appearance and temperament fundamentally, but also leads to physical patients. Life can sculpture a person’s appearance and body. Finally, the author said: in order not to be ugly and not to get sick, people only have more love to fill their hearts. This article has taught me well. People can’t live in the pain of resentment and being hurt and tortured forever. You can’t change others, then change yourself! If you can’t adapt to the environment you live in, then choose to stay away! Now that everything has gone, then choose forgiveness! If you forgive others, you will give yourself a retreat; If you forgive others, you will save yourself. I know that the carving knife of time has left deep scars in my body and soul. I know that I am no longer young and beautiful. However, I have relaxed my heart; I have regained a simple, happy and loving heart; I still have a kind and loving heart, that sufficed. I hope that in the future, I will constantly improve myself: not only should I pay attention to the external decoration, but also should I pay attention to the spiritual decoration. I think, a middle-aged woman who is intellectual, kind, intelligent, confident and affectionate will become more charming even if she doesn’t look beautiful, and her life will also become more wonderful. Charm comes from change. Like (prose editor: Shu Kuang) change the way to continue to stay with this city I went out at 6 o’clock in the morning and came back at almost 8 o’clock in the evening. 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