No matter love or not, don’t argue

I once wrote an article about communication. There are many misunderstandings and tragedies in the world, all of which stem from the lack of communication. Lack of communication leads to information asymmetry, which makes both parties have illusion and then make different judgements. However, some judgements make people sigh, and some regrets need to be borne for a lifetime. For example, from the border town written by Mr. Wen, in a pastoral-like world, every soul of perfection, goodness and beauty is finished in a life full of loneliness and bitter wine. A friend’s choice about whether to go to other places to study after graduating from primary school triggered a long debate. Children used to yearn for a school in other places, and their families spared no effort to sign up for their children, participate in all kinds of tutorial classes, and happily participate in the entrance examination of each school. But after the child was admitted to the best school in local legend, he was no longer willing to go to other places to take exams. As a mother, he was angry, one of them was furious, and the other was not going back. The mother kept criticizing the children for their rebellious behaviors: there is only one graduation in every stage of life, and missing the opportunity will bring heavy consequences; The mother couldn’t figure out more, and promised a small promise that colleagues would go to the exam with their children, not having had cash it. But her stubborn daughter was determined not to go. The reason was that she was young now and the school from other places was too far away from home. Mother think children live up to hope, children and hope mother stay out. As the graduation date approaches, the debate continues to upgrade, and no one can convince anyone. The mother began to emphasize her authority, but the child had to convince people to defend themselves firmly. As a result, the mother became angry from embarrassment and eventually turned into a physical war of bullying the big and the small. There is no doubt that most of the daughters who pouted and were more unjust than Dou E cried and gave in on the surface, and their angry mother repeatedly declared authority as a winner. Somehow, I suddenly felt sad for the mother who had been engaged in education for a long time. To be good to a person, she should know it; To be good to a person, she should not ask for return; To be good to a person, but it depends on others’ feelings. I really want to say: If you love her, please don’t argue with her; If you want harmony, please don’t argue with her; If you want happiness, please don’t argue with her. Nothing is absolutely right or wrong. In order to prove ourselves right, we always try every means to find evidence that is good for ourselves and emphasize aspects that are good for ourselves. On the surface, we are convinced by the principle of reason and mixed with some impulsive emotions, which always mislead us to make mistakes again and again in our emotional life. Can we stop arguing now? I want to tell you another thing: because one is your mother and the other is your daughter, all the arguments actually stem from love. Can you say: Because I love you, I have done everything I think I should do, but you don’t feel it, maybe you still can’t understand this intention, maybe I still have something to do, for example, there is a problem in the communication between each other. Although you will find that all this is just because of loving you, why do we wait for the end? The tragedy of self-directing and self-acting is meaningless. Yes, in the emotional world, rationality has many sides. Taking different sides to PK will only hurt our feelings, deepen misunderstanding and sacrifice the time that should have been happy. In fact, people who get along with each other day and night tend to ignore that many problems should not be considered in a long enough period of time. Therefore, please don’t reason for love. I just want you to get along happily often. But mother’s spearhead pointed at the third party quickly. She couldn’t tolerate the doubt of her education method. She refused to discipline the children and turned around to leave. In fact, she understood her grievance very well and asked the child if he knew why she was so angry? The child said: Some people always treat others in their own way, but don’t care about their feelings. They always feel aggressive pressure when getting along with them. As time passes by, this result makes people very upset. Even if they are wrong, they are unwilling to admit it. Just like she said that she would give you three choices. You can do your homework or you can do it, you can also do homework. It sounds so good, but do I have a choice? Children don’t choose! But to children, one’s anger is the most intense rejection reaction, if this reaction is caused by you and me. Now we don’t consider who is right or wrong. Should we reflect on each other? What actions have irritated each other and made people unhappy. For example, I said to you seriously that because I love you, your carelessness at the beginning caused a waste of resources, and you should explain your attitude seriously. Most of the time, what makes people angry is not the matter itself. Even if it is a big mistake that cannot be changed because it has happened, the key is your attitude towards this matter. It is a common mistake for us to blame each other by seizing the extreme behaviors of the other side in high spirits. Calm down is such an expensive luxury at this time, let the fire of anger burn up and talk about how naive and ideal it is to maintain rationality. The child said that she knew she was wrong, and she hoped to earn the registration fee by doing housework. My father told her that it was OK. Now, you should calm down and listen to your inner voice. If you are willing to go to the exam, your father will accompany you. If you are not willing to go, father respects your choice. Because the choice itself is not absolutely right or wrong, what you should learn is how to do your best not to regret in the future, and not to allow yourself to regret. If we are separated from each other because of misunderstanding, it is a tragedy of improper communication, and this kind of tragedy should be avoided as much as possible in life. I am not telling you the truth, because those principles are so simple that there is no need to talk about them at all. Therefore, we only talk about feelings, only about each other’s thoughts. The child also said whether that meant we didn’t have to argue whether it was right or wrong. If you don’t love someone, do you also want to give up the debate? Yes, a man in his thirties is not willing to review himself, and he is still hesitating to do his own thing. Is the debate really meaningful? In fact, the debate has its premise, which is fairness and reciprocity between the two sides, mutual recognition and respect, and people who can’t put down their bodies and never understand each other, any argument is nothing but an accident, either completely defeated or speechless. This is no longer a problem of communication. Communication cannot solve all the problems in the world. Originally, I thought that because of love, it shouldn’t be reasonable; Now I think, if I don’t love it, I shouldn’t argue. Like (prose editor: Jiangnan wind) the snow in spring Spring elimination snow, multi-the yao nian, unspoken. Reading from afar, it is just above that snowfield. The snow is really beautiful, after all it is spring… Waiting Waiting is a kind of persistence, sticking to a certain belief and never giving up. 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Hang around si yue

So, sit down. Sitting into a standing rape, stretching branches, leaves and leaves, blooming yellow flowers to your heart’s content, floating casually with faint fragrance, and obtaining a moment of comfort and quietness! Tear off the lingering in my mind fiercely, clean up and throw it out, and comb my mood with sunshine. Although my mood was a little twined, I didn’t drop petals for anyone. April is good. The good thing is that it is warm and cold at first, and the good thing is that the slight warmth gives birth to the outing and enjoying the scenery. The good thing is that you can’t stop the ups and downs of your heart when you close your eyes, and the good thing is that you smell, the fragrance of flowers is refreshing and shuttling back and forth among people. The words left Treasure, care and blessing, as well as a series of thoughts and memories. Spring warm stimulates people to sleep, spring warm makes people tired, don’t want to destroy the mood in this season. So, carry the bag, take the dry food, ride a mountain bike, climb the mountain! I stepped slowly, breathed and sweated all the way, and finally sat on the top of the mountain. Looking far away, thousands of houses and thousands of streams are all under your feet; The layers of forests are all green, and the verdant green reveals a little tower top, white, sharp and round. Heart, suddenly enlightened, relaxed! Third, on the stone bench in the park, put a few newspapers and sit with the sun light on your back. I am eager to have someone beside me, talking and talking; About spring, rape flowers, affection, our time and some sporadic memories, I don’t want to say wealth and prosperity. But after all, no one is willing to sit here and speak in another way. Three to five groups, squatting and standing, big talk about when to raise salary, housing prices rise or fall, housing prices in the school district. I talked with emotion, and it seemed that I was going to integrate with the warmth of April. Brilliant, depressed and lost simply spread out a book. It is said that there is a golden house in the book and Yan Ruyu in the book; The lines of words become dazzling, which turns out to be too strong light, to reflect. Like (prose editor: Jiangnan wind) change the way to continue to stay with this city I went out at 6 o’clock in the morning and came back at almost 8 o’clock in the evening. From beginning to end, I only welcomed myself with silence; Since I went to college, on weekends… [Original essay] string words Since winter, the sky is dry and the snow is misty. The whole earth is desolate and empty. Whether your mood is like a year, or… Forever military dream Forever military Dream (Ma Xiaochun, Kangle county, Gansu province) memories are like meteors, passing through the unmarked and blurred eyes, and the outline gradually… Spring rain I like spring rain like everything on the Earth. Just after the new year, the sky began to rain. I really like the spring in Jiangnan… Plucked the snowflakes of Dreams (modified) Near the new year, the first snow fell. I was surprised to read a long scroll in the morning, the white one is snow, and the gray one is tree… Self The fashion is transient, and the style is permanent. Things that can shine on others may not be put here. In…